This is post is just one in a series by some of the Irish Parenting Bloggers group. We’re celebrating! Two of our members are having baby girls early this year – one has arrived (Aine of Andmybaby – on leave at the moment!) and one is to come (Lisa of mama.ie). Best of luck girlies! So for my part in this virtual baby shower – being the mama of 2 boys myself – I want to share a mama’s view of big brotherhood.
Surrounded by maleness so far, in partnership with your husband you have kept safe a Tasmanian devil of a small boy with its’ non-stop twirling, whirling, flinging itself off sofa edges, precarious chairs, the tiniest of steps… I don’t claim your wee lass won’t do that too. But not now. Now is the time to drink her in, her rosebud lips, her button nose, her small mewling and load roars and her nuzzling at your breast.
Boys wreck your house, girls wreck your head – so the saying goes. I think both genders can manage a good line in destructive physical or emotional activity. But still, not now. Now she just has needs, and she needs you.
That little boy? He will be her chief tormentor, her fiercest defender. She will light up for you, with gurgly smiles. But she will light up quickest for him, the sight of him appearing in her field of vision will cause expectant giggles. You will spend all day and all night tending to her, and to him, and sometimes they will only have eyes for each other. He may hurt her with his love, he may throw himself across her small body – such is the weight of his love he must express it with wrestling. Your patience will be tested as you pry the adoring elder sibling off, waiting to see if little one is happy or sad. She will undermine your need to discipline him, by laughing, and you find you cannot scold.
And then you realise, you’ve created a team, and you are their biggest fan, and their trusted coach.
xx to Lisa & Aine!
My Countdown Conundrum-style letter for today, is (Give us a consonant please Carol) T. When the girls have all the letters from all the posts they get to jumble them up and receive a smashing baby shower pressie.
Other posts can be seen at all the links below. There’s a beautiful mix of funny, touching, spiritual & political so I recommend putting the kettle on and reading the many and varied voices of the Irish Parenting Bloggers community: